Dealing With Emotions Part One - The Council Of 12

Reading from The Council Of 12 - except from Inner Self Workshop  26/27 February 2011

"We would like to deal with emotions.

Emotions serve to propel, to push, to... we look for the word... emotions prioritise many things. Emotions are used many times to complete a decision or a choice between one or many other things. Emotions propel, push, force action. Emotions cause action and reaction to circumstances placed in front. For if everything was done on logic, the world would be purely a logical place. And while logic would serve to achieve the end result, achieve goals, there would be no learning; there would be no choice.

For with logic there is a clear choice. By placing emotions, the choice is not so clear. You then need faith. And a lot of the time when making a decision based on emotion, one needs faith, intuitiveness. With logic there is no intuition: there is a clear yes or no, a clear left or right, a clear option of one or two or three or four. With emotion, by using one’s emotions which propel one forward, then and only then do you need to be intuitive. You need to have faith in higher beings. It adds a level of complexity, but it allows one to develop. Emotions are things that allow us to develop, and emotions develop as we age. Childish emotions we carry through into adult life.  Our adult emotions are quite different from our childish emotions, are they not, Teacher? 

Did you ever wonder why? For we are in control of our emotions as we get older. We understand our emotions and the effect it will have, and we begin to suppress our emotions, begin to hold things back, put a cap on things.

Block them up?

Yes. And what happens to us then is our spiritual development begins to slow and eventually cease. So therefore, I know when I was human, I developed spiritually very quickly as a child, but that development slowed as I aged. For I needed it to be appropriate, I needed to communicate, but I also did not live in the moment any longer. See, the young live in the moment, they exist now. Their emotions are honest, for they express what they feel, now. So what does society do now? Suppress the emotions with Ritalin, with drugs. So we need to feel our emotions in a certain way; not controlled, but direct, an emotional response. And particularly the emotions seen as negative, such as anger. A justifiable emotion, Teacher, but nonetheless one that no one wishes to see.

By suppressing anger, you are actually creating great disease within the body. All emotions must be balanced, there must be a harmony within life. So that for every angry moment there is a joyous one, for every sad moment there is a happy one, for every uplifting there is a balancing of retarding, regressing, holding back, settling, grounding, earthing.

With emotions, we see there is still a question in your mind around emotions, Teacher? I feel emotions need to be expressed. If you take anger, it needs to be expressed in a healthy way, not in a destructive manner because that’s not appropriate. 

So what you’re saying is that we need to balance our emotions such as anger with something on the other side like joy or happiness. But don’t we also need to express them? 

Yes, but do you see what happens as we get older? We don’t express anger and then move on. We may express it in a small way, or suppress it. And anger becomes accumulative - joy does not. Anger accumulates, so that eventually, when someone should be mildly angry, they get wildly angry.

That’s loaded anger?

Yes, exploding with anger, Teacher. And it leads to violence and acts of isolation and segregation of the individual. So therefore, our point being that it needs - emotions need - to be expressed in the moment. One needs to live in the moment. If one is angry, an expression of anger can be merely a statement or a visual look, but once it is expressed it is gone, Teacher. 

So therefore your students should know that if they are angry they should express that anger, and understand where the anger came from. And the other individual or individuals who are in a situation need to understand that anger and why that person is expressing it. If expressed with love and dignity, anger will not be shunned or repelled, but loved, understood and blessed. So, they are angry in the circumstance “I am angry to get this parking ticket, I didn’t feel I deserved it, it’s not my fault. I’m so angry about it. How did that serve me? How does this anger serve me now? What did I learn about getting a parking ticket and not returning to my vehicle in time to avoid that?”.

I needed to understand the management of time. I needed to understand my priorities. I needed to understand that this had a higher priority than other things that I’d engaged in. So therefore by understanding it, anger dissipates easily. It’s grabbing the ticket and tearing it up, and being angry and verbal in the street. It’s understanding why is anger present. Anger is present because on the other 35 occasions the universe tried to express to you how important time was, you didn’t pay attention.

So therefore, to understand anger and how it serves you, is to know also how to manage the emotions and how to understand why one gets joyous. Being on the other side, the opposite end of anger, why is there joy? Why don’t you feel joy as many times as you feel anger? Why don’t you feel comfortable, when you feel pleasure, for many are more comfortable with anger than with joy? These are the ones that don’t believe they deserve any joy.

This leads us to the subject of self worth..."